LIfe Lessons: Jealousy Jealousy Jealousy

Hey family,

Let's strip down and discuss something raw and real:

Jealousy. 

Have you ever found yourself not being able to be happy for someone? 

When you see them in person or online, are you unintentionally side-eyeing?

If you knew something that would benefit them, would you tell them? No?

You, my friend might be jealous.

Jealousy is a negative feeling that can produce hate, gossip and slander.

Not only can jealousy affect the subject, but it is a brewing negative energy in your heart, mind and soul. I do hate to be clichè, but you need to protect your energy. 

It is a mental blockage that will prevent your progress. How many times has hating resulted in your success?

I'll keep this one short and sweet-

How to overcome:

-You need to just accept that you are jealous. Yep. Roll your eyes. It's okay. Swallow it. And then:

-If you are religious, pray for the subject of your jealousy. It's quite hard to pray for someone peace, joy and success and still be jealous.  [Plus you can't throw shade during prayer because the God we serve is the Light of the world.] Ha.

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• While you're down there you might aswell send a prayer or two up for yourself, your peace and focus as well as purity of the heart. Find freedom and peace in the knowledge that the Lordt has a plan
  
• Understand that really and truly, everyone's path is different, and that's because everyone's path is different. Yes, you read right. Your entire life up until this point differs in so many ways from the person you are choosing to compare yourself with, so how can you expect that your path here on out with be identical? The different steps have taught you different strengths. When I first wanted to blog, I was no where near as secure and confident as I am now. Nor was I being real and genuine with myself about what I wanted to blog about and why. I won't get too into that now, but child it was a mess. 
   
• Tunnel Vision. Focus on bettering yourself, and finding your purpose. Then work work work on it! I'll be writing another post very soon about more practical steps towards bossing up.
  

That's all for this one and I really hope you've taken something away.

If you have let me know! Also do share. 

Have a happy week

Light and love,

Bolu Noelle 

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GroHealthy Shea and Coconut Review | Akido Wijayarathne

I was recently allied with GroHealthy’s Coconut and Shear line and I just have three S's for it, stunning, stupendous, supercalifragilisticexpialidocious. I tend to turn a sceptical eye towards most hair products what with my problematic mane of less voluptuous, frizzy, dry, damage-prone locks but I must say this line completely stole my heart away for it turned out to be an answer to a better part of my hair ordeals.

I am a sucker for things Shea and Jojoba. I can’t help it, it calls to me and GroHealthy’s line took my senses on a field day. The enticing fragrance got me thinking of home, golden beaches and mojitos. I can definitely get used to smelling like this. Boyfriend approved. Wink Wink.

I have to start with the Smooth Edges since it tolled up to the no. 01 favourite in my books. Its velvety texture soothes down the edges with no effort exerted and leaves no greasy film lying nor does it dry up to be flaky and unappealing. It undoubtedly adds up an exciting finish to the styling process.

My number two goes out to the Flat Out Frizz Fighter. My light hair becomes a dry frizzy mass on the top of my head once dried after a wash and the Flat Out Frizz Fighter is a best buddy. It moisturizes my hair from the roots to the tips and pats it down into tame flowing curls. I add it up in my regular hair routine after the Leave In Conditioner.

Third comes the Shea and Coconut Oil. She with her delightful fragrance and instant moisturizing properties is a purse essential. I used to pre-poo my hair with almond oil but I've discovered that the Shea and Coconut Oil does a better job in the way of moisturising especially in my current location in the tropical islands with its hot dehydrating climate as opposed to my earlier colder climate. Furthermore it adds a shine and a sparkle to the hair along with softening it. Funnily though, it’s my “foot oil” too since it leaves my feet feeling baby soft.

Next comes in the Leave- In  Conditioner. I love, love, love it. A well worked in dollop into my tresses works a long way in creating  nourished, shiny, healthy, wholesome looking hair. It makes it effortless to comb through the hair and has long since reduced hair fall due to friction. It moisturises the locks and keeps in a look of hydrated hair till the next wash.

And moving on to the Moisturizing Shampoo. It sure smells heavenly and easily lathers up making it the fun part of wash day. As in the way of Moisturizing properties, it really didn't set itself apart from any other good shampoo for me. But it definitely fits in the range of good shampoos in its shampooing effects.

Next I am onto the Moisture Rich Conditioner. After the washing out of the shampoo, I rub in a considerable amount of Moisture Rich Conditioner and wait it out for 12-13 minutes which afterwards I wash it off. It adds luster to the hair and makes it noticeably soft and smooth  to the touch. But I would have expected a little deeper conditioning from it in making mark with what I would have expected out of it.

Last but not least, I arrive at the Curling Custard. It defines my curls and holds it up in a good hold without weighing it down which attracts me because I simply dislike feeling excessive products in my hair.  I especially adore how it protects the shine and silkiness of my hair when it's being subjected to heat in the styling process.

The line tempts me mainly because of it's constituents of all naturals and no petrolatum, mineral oil, sulfates, phthalates, colorants or parabens. It's all bottled up nutritious goodness wrapped up in an agreeable aroma. 

The products come with a booklet of helpful guidelines on haircare and styling. You get a captivating amount of products for an affordable price. My curls have never looked better. I would give the line a jolly good thumbs up.

Would I continue using it? Oh yes!
Would I recommend it to anyone looking for brilliant haircare? Absolutely.

Try it out. Your hair will thank you later.

Drop in your experiences with the line in the comment box below.

Love, Akido.

FAIRYTALE PRINCESS OR MISS INDEPENDENT? | Anas Munira

Recently I have had to constantly explain to people that me being focused on my education and the career I want has nothing to do with me being single. And I do not understand why in 2018 I have to explain this which led to this rant.

Relationships are hard enough as it is so can we please refrain from anything that complicates it even further, Thank you very much. That I am independent doesn't mean I don't expect to be swept off my feet by a man. Yes,I am fully capable of taking care of myself and yes, I expect my man to take care of me the same way I will take care of him ,but let me help you understand something, just because i expect my man to care of me, does not take away amything from my independence. Being able to take care of yourself as a woman doesn't mean you don't need a man it just means you are self-sufficient human being and there's nothing wrong with that. We have to stop putting these restrictions on ourselves and giving ourselves these either-or options. In an age where we are telling women to be whoever they want to be and that the world is their oyster. It's only fair that we tell them that being a "goal getter" doesn't mean they don't deserve to be treated like the Queens that they are. Everyone wants to love and be loved back. And being an independent woman doesn't mean you should want that any less or that you don't deserve it.

The mere fact that we are tying a woman's Independence to a man irks me. How about I strive to be self-sufficient because my parents have taken care of me my whole life and now that I'm an adult, I want to do that for myself. How about I want to know the feeling of spending on myself with money I worked my butt off for. How about the sense of accomplishment I want to feel after achieving a goal. Or the many other reasons why women are working hard and striving to make themselves better. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to fold your arms sitting around waiting for someone to hand something to you. And getting those things for yourself does not mean you do not like to be spoilt once in a while. We all like to feel good so why should the independent woman be made to feel guilty for feeling so. After all, being a strong, badass, goal getting woman is about breaking the norms. So go ahead, break those rules! Get your money and get you a loving, caring relationship with a man who believes in romance and treating his woman like a princess. Don't let anyone ever tell you it's not possible or that you don't deserve it.

I honestly don't think we should be ashamed of wanting and needing a man. We are humans and we want to share our lives with others. And the fact that you've mastered the art of being able to get things done by yourself and being comfortable alone (which is very important) does not mean you do not want a partner in love.
And while we are it, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be alone either. If you truly feel like you do not want to be in a relationship, that's your choice and again you shouldn't feel ashamed for it. We have to stop taking this independence thing to the extreme and forcing people to choose what they want to be (alone or hitched) or what type of person they should be with and at what time they should be with such person. We can have it all. And I feel like, well, that should be the point of this whole age of the Independent Woman.

                                                                                                Love, Neera.

GroHealthy Shea and Coconut Product Review | Anas Munira

I recently had the opportunity to use the shea and coconut line from Grohealthy and I must say I am absolutely in love with the products. First of all the smell is amazing and that delicious combination of shea butter and coconut oil is what hits you when you first open their products.

I started off with the moisturizing shampoo which really lathers easily. I like that I didn’t have to use a lot of product to get that squeaky clean feel however I was a little disappointed as for a moisturizing shampoo it left my hair feeling dry. I would recommend a prepoo before use. I then followed with the moisture rich conditioner which stayed true to its name and left my hair feeling very soft and moisturized.

The leave-in conditioner melts easily into your hair which I love and it definitely continues the moisturizing process. I followed it with the shea and coconut oil which really locks in the moisture without giving your hair that greasy feel. I especially love how the oil easily smoothens down your hair.I then twisted my hair with the curling custard which gave me really defined twists. 

The flat out frizz fighter is amazing for when you want to smooth down flyaways and keep your hair frizz free. Lastly the edge gel really does keep your edges laid and does not leave them flaky or dry. I must say I did enjoy using this line and I hope you give them a try. Do let me know how it goes in the comment section .

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Love,Neera.

GroHealthy Shea & Coconut Product Review

I recently had the opportunity to try the entire range of products from GroHealthy, specifically their Shea & Coconut line with Omega 3. Right from the onset, I was quite excited as coconut oil is probably my favourite product for my hair anyway, and the benefits of shea butter are untold, so to say that I was looking forward to trying out this range is quite an understatement.

But here are the main ingredient benefits according to GroHealthy:

•       Coconut - moisturises, adds shine, and helps promote growth.

•       Shea - nourishes roots, soothes scalp.

•       Omega 3 - helps rebuild,strenghthen and protect hair from within.

And let me state now that none of the products contain petrolatum, mineral oil, sulphates, phthalates, colourants or parabens, which is already a big thumbs up in my book. They all have a very similar, pleasant, light coconutish smell.

I think I must have used the products at least 5 times over the space of 2 weeks so this review is going to be very thorough. Let's chat about them in the order that I used them.

Moisturizing Shampoo

This is a rich luxurious, shampoo that forms a lovely thick lather as  you work it into your hair. I typically start by working it into my scalp and let it run down the rest of my strands. It's super moisturising and I can feel how soft my hair is after washing, which means I can do a little detangling with the shampoo still in my hair. And because it doesn't contain any nasties like sulphates, mineral oil or parabens my hair doesn't feel stripped of its natural oils after cleansing.

Moisture Rich Conditioner

This conditioner lives up to its name in that it is incredibily moisturising, to the point where I actually end up using it as a deep conditioner. I would apply it to my hair and then carry on with the rest of my shower routine. Just before rinsing it off I would detangle my hair, which is made super easy with this conditioner. My hair feels unbelievably soft after rinsing it off. The only aspect that I didn't enjoy so much is the tingly feeling it creates on my scalp, but other than that I really enjoy using it.

Leave-In Conditioner

Using a leave-in conditioner is for me the most important step during the styling process as it forms the basis for the rest of the style and I find that this leave-in does a very good job of it. I can practically feel how it seals and smooths my hair cuticle, which is essential in helping my styles to last longer.

Curling Custard

My favourite product of all in the GroHealthy Shea and Coconut range is by far the curling custard.  It's a thick cream that promises to create long-lasting shiny spirals and gorgeous curls. They are not wrong. Not only does it define my curls like it's nobody's business but it also adds a gorgeous shine to my hair with just the right amount of hold.

Flat Out Frizz Fighter

This is a daily smoothing cream that fights frizz and flyaways. It can also be used for flat ironing. The way that I use it is as a smoothing cream on wet hair. So right after I apply the Curling Custard and right before I apply the Shea & Coconut Oil I like to apply a little just to help contan any frizzies that might appear while I defuse my hair. I would also apply it as a smoother if I have to be out of the door quickly and don't have much time to style. So I would throw up all my hair in a high bun and use the product to smooth down any flyaways.

Shea & Coconut Oil

I was a little disappointed when I saw that the first oil on the ingredient list, which is avocado oil, is listed sixth and only then followed by coconut oil, shea butter, and olive fruit oil. I feel like if these were the main ingredients my hair would have done a lot better at staying sealed with moisture. But I found that moisture would escape my hair halfway through the day already and usually if I use 100% coconut oil to seal it would remain moisturised for much longer.

Smooth Edges

Wow, I have to admit that I am very pleasantly surprised with this edge control gel. Besides providing a nice flexible hold for my edges, I also found it incredibly moisturising and it doesn't cause any dryness or flakes. I actually find it to be the ideal finish for my hairline.

Overall this is a lovely range of products and my natural hair really took to it.

Have you used GroHealthy before? If you did, let us know what you thought of it by leaving a comment below.

By Eleanor J'adore